My Kebaya for Eid Mubarak

When Lebaran/ Eid Muvarak come, my husband and I visited mother’s house in Salatiga (Central Java), Indonesia. My husband and I live in Bali. Celebrating Lebaran for a week, I need to be more efficient to choose clothes to carry, which is not difficult to carry, especially when my husband was in an unhealthy condition, he must use crutches to walk.

I was thinking oto bring 1 suitcase only for  two of us. My  idea was to bring clothes for myself  very simple:
– kebaya 3 pcs
– 1 pc saroong
– 1 pc skirt
– other are shorts and T-shirts for sleeping

When talking about kebaya sometimes that occurred in the head is a clothing that is not flexible to wear to various events. A formal model makes us feel kebaya is only suitable for use only.

But, as long as we know how to choose and mix-match,  we can use simple kebaya during Lebaran (Eid Mubarak).  Staying beautiful, polite, and not reducing the meaning of  Eid Mubarak.

These are my mix-match for Eid Mubarak 2017:

The first Day :

Go to the mosque & tomb:
Where father, grandmother, grandfather and grandmother are buried



2nd Day : Met Neighbors


3nd Day : Posterity Meeting




My Culture is My Day


NOTE: mostly this pics took by my niece, Faiha, she is 8 years old.  My outfit is  Culture of Indonesia, we call it kebaya.  The originl kebaya is long Sleeves.

The First Anniversary


25 December 2016 was our first anniversary. We had no party, No wine and no dance. We just want to have more grateful about what we had since we are being together as husband and wife.  So my husband and me discussed what we want to do in our first anniversary.  We thought to have a simple celebration with family and neighbor. And the important things are I wanted to remember my kid’s life.  For our first anniversary we did :


We invited family of our sisters and our brother, we took lunch together.  The food was traditional food “tumpeng” which is rice and vegetable (more than 10 items vegetable), dry fish, tempe, egg. We drank coconut ice “kelapa muda”, and the snack was Jajan pasar (traditional food when I was a kid).


Bancakan is invite children, play together and then they bring food and toy to their home.  In this bancakan we always say “huraaaay” together.  Usually we speak in Javaneese language (mother’s language)


We played with the kids around our mum house (we call it dolanan), it’s my basic culture how to play with friends. Poorly, the kids didn’t know about this.  So we teach them first then we play together (note: what they knew is gadget and play a game with it, sigh… ).  After played, we prayed together and very loud we say “hurraaaay…..”.  The meaning of “huraay” here is “please go the bad things and please come the best things.  After that, children will go home and bring food and toy as a gift.


After I teach them about it, they are very excited, and then they told to the parents that they want celebrate their next birthday like my first anniversary celebration.


Share happiness to people around us after celebrating of something is Bancakan also.  So its part of grateful things.  We visited neighbor and told them “We bring this food for you and family, because its first anniversary of Risty marriage”.  And then they gave nice words before we left.  Who come to the neighbor is somebody (whoever) as long as under name of my family.

I always hope that in everything I do, I will remember my culture, regarding right now, its difficult to find “bancakan” in my life, but we can find in Suriname. #

Romanticism of a Wrap Rice

Note: English & bahasa Indonesia (Bhs Indonesia berada di bagian bawah tulisan ini)


I called him Pak’e (means : dad). He was a hard, strong figure and disciplined father. The figure reflected the strength of all the action and his behavior. The characters are very different comparing to my mother. Two different characters are very different … united and establish affection until he died at the age of 81 years. Characters that opposite each other between the two. Although different, Pak’e (=dad) and Mak’e (= mom) (as I call them) … is very compact in educating children and grandchildren.

Poverty through which my parents did not deter them to stick together and work hard. Initially, Dad is a labor of fetching water coconut sap, and mom helped neighbors for washing, but along with the grit and tenacity they can trade. Seasonal trade. This means that a wide range of goods sold according to market needs. Trade as he walked to the market according to the market crowd  (Pahing, pound, wage, kliwon, legi). Note: the market based on the 5-day count.

Leaving the middle of the night, at midnight they stop at the mosque for prayers tahajud. And if Ramadhan, they bring food for sahur on the road. And provisions brought in only 1 packet of rice (instead of 2 packs of rice). When the time dawn, Mom opened the package, and both just looked at each other and did not eat it. Dad ask Mom to eat first, but Mom says: “I’ve dawn, this is for you, my dear.”  Dad began eating the rice, and Dad not finish it. Mom ask: “Why not run out?” Dad replied: “I’ve had enough.” And Mom had spent the rice. Dad knew that mom does not eat yet, but mom lied to make dad want to eat rice it.

Although dad gone .. he was a person who always gives a lovely character to me. Behind the strong & discipline character, you have mom were always gentle and always smiling. Romanticism simple dad and mom do is exemplary that has meaningful for children. I will always love you. Dad is not only the figure of the husband who is very responsible, but Dad is the best for me.

I know, Dad not know what it was Father’s Day … But I thank you has been a great father to me … brothers, sisters, and nephews, nieces. And we are very proud of you. May God always give you love. #

Romantisme Sebungkus Nasi

Saya memangilnya Pak’e.  Dia sosok seorang bapak yang keras dan disiplin.  Sosok kuatnya tercermin dari semua tindakan dan sikap kesehariannya.  Karakter yang sangat berbeda dengan ibu saya.  Dua karakter yang berbeda.. sangat berbeda.. yang bersatu dan menjalin kasih sayang sampai ayahku meninggal pada usia 81 tahun.  Karakter yang saling mengimbangi diantara keduanya.  Meskipun berbeda, Pak’e dan Mak’e (begitu saya sebut mereka)… sangatlah kompak dalam mendidik anak-anak dan cucu-cucunya.

Kemiskinan yang dilalui orangtua saya tidak menghalangi mereka untuk tetap bersatu dan bekerja keras.  Awalnya, Pak’e adalah seorang buruh mengambil air nira kelapa, dan mak’e  buruh mencuci, namun seiring dengan ketabahan dan keuletannya mereka dapat berdagang.  Berdagang musiman.  Artinya berbagai barang yang dijual sesuai dengan kebutuhan pasar.  Berdagang sambil berjalan menuju pasar sesuai dengan hari pasaran (Pahing, pon, wage, kliwon, legi).  Catatan : pasaran berdasarkan 5 hari hitungan.

Berangkat tengah malam,  di tengah malam berhenti di masjid untuk sholat tahajud.  Dan jika Ramadhan, mereka membawa bekal untuk sahur di jalan. Dan bekal yang dibawa hanya 1 bungkus nasi (bukan 2 bungkus nasi).  Ketika waktunya sahur, Mak’e membuka bungkusan, dan keduanya hanya saling pandang dan tidak memakannya.  Pak’e meminta Mak’e untuk makan terlebih dahulu, tapi Mak’e bilang : “Aku sudah sahur, ini buat kamu Mas.”  Pak’e pun mulai makan nasi tersebut, dan Pak’e tidak menghabiskannya.  Mak’e pun bertanya : “Kenapa nggak habis?”  Pak’e menjawab: “aku sudah kenyang.”   Dan Mak’e pun menghabiskan nasi tersebut.  Pak’e tahu bahwa Mak’e belum sahur, tapi Mak’e berbohong agar Pak’e mau menyantap nasi untuk sahur.

Meskipun Pak’e sudah tidak ada.. beliau adalah sosok yang selalu memberikan karakter yang indah kepada saya.  Di balik kedisiplinan dan karakter yang keras, kau mempunyai Mak’e yang selalu lemah lembut dan selalu tersenyum.  Romantisme sederhana yang Pak’e dan Mak’e lakukan adalah keteladanan yang tiada arti bagi kami anak-anakmu.  Saya akan selalu mencintaimu.  Pak’e bukan hanya sosok suami yang bertangung jawab, Pak’e adalah Bapak yang terbaik buat saya.

Saya tahu, Pak’e tidak tau apa itu Hari Bapak… Tapi saya berterima kasih telah menjadi bapak yang hebat buat saya… kakak, adik, dan keponakan-keponakan.  Dan Kami sangat bangga denganmu.  Semoga Allah selalu memberimu cinta.#.



How Happy They Are


I was with them, when I visit my mum at the village.  I bring this kids going around with dokar/ Andong (traditional public transportation in my hometown). A dokar is the jiggling, horse-drawn cart found throughout Indonesia. The two-wheeled carts are usually brightly coloured with decorative motifs and bells; the small horses or ponies often have long tassels attached to their bridle. A typical dokar has bench seating on either side, which can comfortably fit three or four persons. However, their owners often try to pack in more than that plus bags of rice!

The boy is 2,5 years old (my niece’s son), and the girl is 4 years old (my other niece’s daughter).  I was telling them about something (with my crazy imagination, created myself), they felt my story is funny… look at that.. they are laughing.  Looking this pic is always make me miss them terribly.  Miss you Syarif & Adeela.#


I’m Lucky Living in Indonesia

Do you see fork here? Yes you are right.  No forks on the table.  Fork is not Java Culture.  We use spoon sometimes, but mostly we eat with right hand.


Rice for 8 people
2 grilled carp
1 papaya flower – stir-fry
1 plecing kangkung – is spicy kale (stir fry), originally from Lombok
1 genjer stir-fry
Fried bananas


Thats what we drink :Young Coconut, Coffee, Mineral water, Juice


How to eat with hand, Javaneese culture and Islam culture


We finished it till so clean. How much it cost for 8 people? Total around IDR 350.000,-
Surprised? Me too. I am lucky I live in Indonesia, still so cheap 😀

Let’s  See what the view around us, meanwhile we eat


I feel vey lucky living in Indonesia, not just beautiful, but also cheaper, especially in Central Java.#

Hok Tek Bio Temple, Salatiga

07 Feb 2016, my family and I came to the temple named Hok Tek Bio in Salatiga, Central Java, Indonesia.  That was my holiday with family in my hometown.  08 Feb 2016 was Chineese New Year, so the Hok Tek Bio looks so beautiful.  All was Red and very interesting.


Places of Worship Tri Dharma commonly called Hok Tek Bio temple Tiek Hok Bio.  It located in Jalan Sukowati. Hok Tek Bio is a historical witness about entry of Buddhism in Salatiga.  And along the way, Shrine Hok Bio Tiek it became a symbol of the presence of Tri Dharma adherents, namely the combination of Buddhism, Confucianism and Taoism.

The influence of the teachings of Buddha had actually been going on very long. It is marked with the number found in the form of commemorative statues, yoni and inscriptions with a pattern of Hindu / Buddhist. The establishment of this temple signifies the influx of Chinese influence to this Faithful Heart City. It was not known exactly when the influence of the diaspora have entered into Salatiga which was once the fief of this. But from the identification of a number of historians, the influx of Chinese influence in Salatiga predicted to occur along with the Chinese movement to Surakarta (Solo) in the year 1740-1741.

Pagoda predominantly red and golden yellow was built around 1872. It is not clear who’s character has the idea of ​​the construction of the pagoda that has nine altar (table worship) is. But certainly, this pagoda stands on donations followers Tri Dharma at that time. The names of the churches that contributed stated in the inscription that was on the east wall of the main room with Chinese writing. The red color symbolizes happiness and success. Medium golden yellow color has a meaning divinity / religious (religusitas).

Nine altars are located in nine spaces. An open space at the front of the main building whose shape resembles the letter T upside to this is the worship space Thian Than (God Almighty). The middle room which is the main hall there is the altar of the God of Earth (Hok Tek Ching Sien) and other gods and bodyguards. To the east of the main hall there are two worship space, the space worship the Goddess of Mercy (Co Mak Kwan Im) and the worship of the god Rezeki space. While in the west the main room also has two worship space, the Goddess worship space Marine (Mak Co Thian Siang Sing Bo) and the worship space smiling Buddha (Buddha smiling).

Separated from the main building, in the west there are buildings stretching to the north containing three worship space. The most northern space is contained Siddharta Gautama Buddha altar. The middle room there is an altar Thay Lo Sang Kun and most eastern room there is an altar Prophet Confucianism. One of the uniqueness of the temple Hok Bio Tiek is there a round tampa made of bamboo hanging from the ceiling space worship God of Earth.

The black color that caused by candles smokes and swa hio is  a warning not to swear in the temple, except by court order.

For those who take an oath at the temple, but the oath was a lie, believed to be the person who swore it would receive a substantial risk of what he was doing. Its about people belief in this temple. I cannot tell about true or not, but I have huge respect about this.# (various sources)